Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Blogged Down

Sorry for the lack of posting. I'm in the middle of dealing with some issues relating to school, and as such, I have no time.

Mazel Tov to Jewish Side on her engagement- it's like an epidemic in the Jblogosphere! First, Bas~Melech, Corner Point, Michelle....who's next?

Currently, I have no shidduchim to my track record- I've tried to set people up numerous times. As soon as I got engaged- my thoughts turned to my friends still stuck in the shidduchim rut. And, I ransacked Mr. NMF for any and all friends who might be available. After all, being a guy, he knew of more single guys than I did.

One interesting shidduch I redt was actually suggested by 2 more people, but alas, didn't work out.

I still think of shidduchim every once in a while, but the furthest I've ever gotten with a single shidduch is about five dates. But, it doesn't hurt to continue to try!

It's as hard as splitting the sea, the Gemara says. I used to believe that if a couple would just go out on a date- that deserves a kiddush or l'chaim, at the very least. People are very adverse to even go out with another- due to unusually rigorous checking, or adversity to even date at all.

But that's a topic for another post.


Jewish Side of Babysitter said...

Thanks for the Mazel Tov and the link!

btw, I had something written down to tell you since August but I never got around to it.

For my grandmother's birthday, we made her a party, and she gave a little speech. She had made alyah to Israel Summer 2006. So in her speech she talked about "Only in Israel" which reminded me of you, so I figured I'd share a few of the things she said that I thought were cute.

One of them was only in Israel do you have your computer welcome you with Boruch Habah instead of Welcome. That the Mail comes on Sunday instead of Shabbos, which I thought was a good one.

itsagift said...

Wow - Mazel tov!
Oh shidduchim...it's soo hard to redt shidduchim, finally after finding the guy (which is hard enough...), you have to get an okay from BOTH sides!!! Then the dating process (if you get to there)...I think so far I got ONE couple to go out and it was a real no no after the first date! Oh well!
I did try setting people up but there are many times where u convince one side and the other side still says no...but I'll keep trying!!!
My friends may not know the many times I have tried for them because it didn't move anywhere, but I have spent lots and lots of time just trying to get a "yes" which never happened...but Hashem gives you schar just for trying and for the effort you put in so don't give up!

Jewish Side of Babysitter said...

Itsagift: Thanks!

nmf #7 said...

Jewish Side- Awesome! Love the mail example. It's so true, by the way...recently, a short OII moment for me was that I got off a bus in Geulah before Rosh Hashana, and the bus flashed my neighborhood's name on its sign, like it always does, and then flashed "L'Shana Tova!" During the Aseret Yemei Teshuva it flashed "Gmar Chasima Tova"- really cute, no?

Itsagift- I know- but it's hard to remember that the effort is all that's needed, when it continuously doesn't work out, for one reason or another.

My shadchan actually told me (she makes tons of shidduchim all the time) that she seriously should get paid just for doing the calling work before the people go out, because it takes such time and effort just to help with the checking.

And about the friends- it is very true. My single friends don't really know how much I've tried to set them up, because they only get to hear it after I call the guy and go through his mishagas.

Ah well. Hashem is Mizaveg Zivugim, after all.

itsagift said...

Yes. Hashem is the One who does it all - that's why when it gets sooo hard to do, we remember who is the one who is really in charge!!

Something Different said...

I volunteer to be next. You have a guy in mind?


nmf #7 said...

SD- Maybe... :D